I noticed in your timeline that you emigrated to Australia, I have been saving for a while to move out of my family home, I need a nudge to get me over the line. I don't have the closest of relationships with my Dad, but I'm anxious about making a break...
Lee, (London, UK)
Hi Lee,
It is of utmost importance that we call into conscious awareness the childhood traumas which serve as triggers for self-limiting beliefs we may hold about ourselves if we are to fully expand into the glorious potential of our humanity. Our tribal ancestors before us understood the importance of rituals, rites of passage, and the handing down of knowledge to facilitate the evolution of their community.
This process of aiding the collective while enabling individuation is seldom understood now in a world that needs such catalysts for change. Only until you have left the family home can a person genuinely individuate; only until there is a contained sacred space of one's own is there the opportunity to thoroughly unpick the cultural conditioning, programming, and prescribed reality of the founding figures from our childhoods.
Once this is called into awareness and this process has been fully engaged in, can we transition from knee-jerk decision-making in our lives to values-based decision-making. (The key difference between the two hinges on the truth that values-based decisions stem from aligning the needs of our soul rather than the ego's tyrannical demands.) From this space, we connect to the warmth of our being, to our centre.
The ego becomes subservient to the soul's wishes and is no longer at the wheel of our lives.
The ego recognizes it is, in fact, very small, humbleD in the grace of the soul's beauty and its natural inclination to grow. Go well in your journey towards fulfilment.